When I was pregnant with my second child, I picked the brains of all of the moms of two that I knew. How different is it having two kids instead of one? What is it like? Yadda, yadda, yadda. Well, now that I am a mom of two, and have had two for 8 months, I can tell you exactly what it’s like. It’s not any harder; in fact, some parts are easier because you have been there done that. But it is nonstop. And by nonstop I mean downright exhausting. Right when you get one kid happy, the next one needs something. And so it continues. All. Day. Long.
Forget About Naps
Do you remember those good ol’ days where you could take naps when your baby was napping? Yeah, not gonna happen. Get it out of your mind. Even if you are lucky enough to get both kids asleep at the same time (like I did once), you will have so much catch-up to do (shower, anyone?), that you just can’t justify to your brain that you should spend the time sleeping.
Never Leave the Room
Something else you could do with the first kid was put them down somewhere safe and leave the room to, oh, I don’t know, go to the bathroom. Well, as a mom of two, those days are gone, too. Why? Because if you put the baby in his bouncy chair or in his jumper, the toddler is sure to wreak havoc. While she loves him and only means the best, that doesn’t necessarily mean she is going be gentle about it.
Be Prepared to Laugh a Lot
Above all, I have learned that being a mom of two means twice as many smiles, twice as much laughter, and twice as much joy. The work may be nonstop, but you can’t even fathom the joy of it. Watching the older one nurture and dote on the younger one. Watching the younger one stare at the older one with eyes of complete admiration. And holding one kid on each leg as you are enveloped in unconditional love. Those are the moments that make it all worth it.
If you are a mom of two, what was the biggest change for you?